Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolution , a biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin answering your most confidential questions to help you achieve a healthy, joyful sex life. Here, she answers a question about hands-free masturbation. I have tried masturbating before, but my hands get tired so quickly. Do you have any tips for hands-free masturbation? DEAR T. Fortunately, there are tons of ways to masturbate hands-free. Here are some amazing ways to explore making masturbation less taxing on your body. Your bathroom has a whole world of hands-free pleasure opportunities for you! You can try lying down on your back in the tub, and letting the water from the showerhead fall down onto your labia and clitoris.
At first I did it in school or work place bathrooms. I couldn't resist once I learned how temptingly easy it was to take that small break for the big, though silent, O. I suspect there are others like me: people who masturbate at their workplace or school. Surely, there's nothing too unusual about it. Then again, no one I know has ever admitted to doing so duh. I don't masturbate because I'm stressed out. It's not because I have too much work, not enough work, deadlines; I haven't just quit smoking and need to relieve the tension. I'm not about to put the demands of the 9-to-5 world before those of my healthy instincts. At first, though the risk of being caught was always present, it wasn't something I considered a part of the act. But over time that element became as important as the bodily demand.
If guys can do hands free masturbation, why can't girls? True there are probably more male masturbation techniques than there are girls masturbation techniques, but that's because guys think about it all the time, so after thousands of years of evolution thinking about very little else, you would rightfully expect men to have one or two additional techniques up their sleeves. However, It does not mean to say that a willingness to experiment can't produce the most fantastic results for girls. The fact is, many girl's masturbation techniques are limited only by a willingness to explore and be imaginative. If you have been brought up to believe that fingering yourself is dirty and sinful and just plain wrong then the best way around it is the girls masturbation technique known as hands free masturbation. This can be achieved in several imaginative ways, but some of the best ways include massaging and stimulating your breasts only while using a sex toy to tickle your clit and penetrate your vagina. Girl's masturbation using this method can be even more powerful than full on masturbation using the hands. Another technique is to cradle a dildo in your feet and massage it in and out of your vagina, feeding the dildo in, then pulling back in slow rhythmic strokes. A vibrating dildo used for this method will quickly produce an earth shattering climax. Also a strap on vibrator with a butterfly style clit stimulator is another fantastic way to enjoy girl's masturbation without having to get your hands dirty or even faintly messy.
Just as couples get bored by the same routine in the bedroom, women may want to mix up their solo sex habits too. According to Kelly Wise, Ph.
So, if you haven't enjoyed hands-free masturbation or mixed up your routine lately, consider these four ways to get off:. Getting vaginal stimulation in the shower or bathtub is a quick, easy, and clean masturbation experience.
You can position your body under the running faucet in the bath or move the shower head around to your front and backside to experience maximum pleasure. Wise has clients who have said that using water—whether a showerhead, Jacuzzi jet, or tub spout—has given them the best orgasms of their lives.
I've spoken with women who have gotten off by humping pillows, rubbing against mattresses, or pushing their pelvis into the side of the sofa or another piece of furniture. Wise says that rubbing against objects is a great way to engage in self-love. Yes, breathing isn't technically masturbation, but bear with me here: Breath brings us back to the moment, and presence is a major factor in being turned on, according to Wise.
Contracting pelvic muscles can help some women build up desire and experience arousal. While it's true that Kegel exercises aren't known or intended to be erotic, pelvic contractions paired with controlled breathing have allowed some women to fantasize and get off.
If this doesn't work for you right away, don't stress it—it takes time and practice. Follow her on Twitter andreasyrtash. Topics sex tips sex advice masturbation.